So much work goes into planning a project, specially one where your delivery involves the delivery of other people. You know, when you have to delegate or outsource.
Delegating can become grueling and quite frankly as an entrepreneur, one of the biggest struggles you may find yourself in.
But here’s the truth, you have to let others do what they do, so that you can do what you do. It is impossible to be in 3 places at 3 different times and those interactions with others, whether positive or not, are what fuel this thing called life.
In short, you have to be willing to roll with the punches.
Over the past few weeks I was reminded of the many, MANY invaluable lessons delegating can teach you. So whether you’re on your personal or entrepreneurial journey, I hope these lessons serve you as they have me:
- Listen to your gut. Even if it’s a tiny nudge or subtle whisper. It is God’s way of directing your ship and it is never wrong. The more you listen, the sharper you will become at weeding out the things and people in your life that do not serve you, your mission or your community.
- When you’re feeling drained…unplug. Yes that means not checking your mobile device every 5 minutes. Reconnect with your spouse, your children, go for a walk, pray. Take at least 5 minutes to center yourself. If you do this every day, I promise you it will remind you of your why. And your why is what matters.
- Try and I mean really try to not take falling outs personally. Like Don Miguel Ruiz says in The Four Agreements, “Nothing others do is because of you.” NOTHING.
- Get over yourself. Not much more to say about that.
- Surround yourself with like minded people, specially those who aren’t afraid to call you out when you’re not seeing your path. Sometimes the path gets foggy and we need windshield wipers to help us see what’s ahead. Don’t be afraid to hear the truth from someone other than yourself. A few weeks ago, I was so invested in a specific situation I was only seeing my perspective. A colleague helped me get over myself (lesson #4) very quickly. When you’re too invested in any situation, it can be difficult to make objective decisions. So, don’t go to people who will tell you what you want to hear, but rather go to those that will help you see the lesson.
- A written contract holds invested parties accountable, but at the end of the day your word supersedes. People will always remember the integrity in which you handled any given situation.
- Don’t be afraid to call other people out when they’re not seeing their path. Be that person others go to for clarity. The reality is that there is no gray area when it comes to the truth so, don’t be the one to dress it up for others. Nip it in the butt, throw the pity party and MOVE ON. There’s another opportunity waiting for them right around the corner which they might miss and you can help them see that.
Delegating doesn’t mean passing off work you don’t enjoy, it means giving others the opportunity to shine. Let others do what they do, so that you can do what you do.
About the Author:
Vanessa Coppes empowers women, moms specially, to live fabulously…everyday.