“How could you not know that about Rose? It was on Facebook!”
Insert look of WTH? How did you NOT know that Rose’s father won the lottery, that John’s starting a new business or that Fernando (your high school friend’s little boy) just started walking?!?! HUH?!?!
Apparently, everybody out there is living it up -except you.
The FOMO plague…it’s here and I realized that we’ve become plagued FOMO bug.
Listen, it’s hard not to. Swipe your mobile device and right there it’s revealed to you that EVERYBODY else (except you) is doing something A.W.E.S.O.M.E.R. than you are. I mean, how did it never occur to you that you could build a snowman in the desert?until you saw your BFF from elementary school crowd-funding for the device he invented to make ice in the desert, right? Why didn’t you come up with that one?
And at that moment, FOMO swoops in, twerks right in front of your eyes and then waves and laughs at your inability to keep up.
I came across an article written by Martha Beck. Beck explains, “We may argue FOMO to be healthy motivation. But the first of FOMO’s 4 words is fear -the opposite of healthy. Fear can get us moving, but never happily.”
Living in fear doesn’t improve the quality of your life; it haunts us, makes us tense and actually shrivels our internal organs. So how can we live within the FOMOsphere? I’m lad you asked.
Martha gives 3 phenomenal strategies that I want to share with you:
1. Realize that FOMO is based on lies. The life that you think exists for others, doesn’t really exist. The internet and media bombards us with an endless montage of momentary highs disguised as everyday activities. Evaluating other people’s real life experiences by their carefully curated instapics or selfies is like trying to navigate with binoculars that only show mountain peaks. When you feel FOMO, right there and there, remind yourself that what you are seeing is likely not to be happening. The whole truth is that many of us will spend hours mustering up the energy to take a shower today. No one wants to take a picture of that. But THAT there is the truth.
2. Fight FOMO with FOMO. Our feelings and behaviors are created by the words we use. Redefine the meaning of FOMO:
- Feel Okay More Often
- Find One Magnificent Object
- Focus On Melting Open
3. Stop. When you feel FOMO creeping in, STOP. Close your eyes, breathe, center yourself. Realize the present moment and the blessings around you. See abundance, not lack.
What you’ve really been missing out on is today…that heartfelt talk with your high school girlfriend over coffee, reconnecting with your partner, even tickle sandwiches with your kids!
Take a breath. Listen to the whispers of your inner voice telling you to chill, to be open and then you’ll realize how much is already available to you.
Have you caught the FOMO bug? What have you done to stop it in it’s tracks? Would love to hear from you. Leave me a comment below.