How to Know When to Say YES and NO during the Holidays

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.” Dale Carnegie

I know I’m not alone when I say, the holidays can be frustrating, overwhelming and energy sucking. Whether it’s the kids circling everything in the toy store wish-book or the month long holiday parties, you gotta have some self-control when making decisions.  

Sometimes it takes some jingle ‘balls’ and angelic patience to have a kick-ass holiday. I am no saint, just a busy mama who knows (from personal experience) what will happen when you don’t put self-care on your own Christmas wish list.

How to know when to say YES and NO during the holidays?

We are constantly told how to be the ‘perfect’ holiday parent, partner, hostess and gift giver, so when dealing with the holiday chaos, ask yourself the following questions when making any decisions (which parties to attend, how long to wait in a line to see Santa, how much to spend on a gift etc…)

  • Am I saying YES to please others or myself? Note: In the long run being a people pleaser will leave you drained and frustrated.
  • Do my actions mirror my personal values? AKA are you practicing what you preach?
  • How will I feel at the end of the day? Note: When you are not filling your own love tank, you will not be able to fill anyone else’s and will therefore be filled  with feelings of anger, resentment and sever frustration.

In the end, the holidays are a time to connect, reflect and enjoy. Remembering yourself, trusting your gut and taking the pressure off will allow you to have a kick-ass holiday season.

And always remember. Breathe. You got this!

Much love,


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